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Andrew was lucky. In some way, his whole life might be considered a miracle.
He lived, even though he was born with a heart defect on March 7, 1972, in Saigon. He made it to America, and eventually to the Palm Beach Police, where he is an officer.
He was able to put together the pieces of his life — across continents, cultures and generations.
He even met his American father.
That happened last month: May 10, days before Andrew was scheduled for heart surgery.
Maybe it was just in time.
Andrew" Nguyen, left, met his father Michael Strange for the first time in May in West Palm Beach. [MEGHAN MCCARTHY/PALMBEACHDAILYNEWS/TNS]
A half-blood child
Andrew’s mother, Tram “Kim” Nguyen, met Michael Strange in Saigon, where he was stationed for his second tour of duty. She had three children from a previous marriage, but formed a relationship with the young soldier. And like a number of American GIs, he returned to the States after his tour ended.
Mike Strange joined the U.S. Army on March 7, 1968, two weeks after graduating from high school. Little did he know that he would have a son born on that day, four years later.
He went to Vietnam for the first time in 1969, before rotating out to Germany for nine months. “I returned to Nam in 1970 and left for good in 1972. Did 31 months total.”
Strange, who lives in Nashville, N.C., said he met Kim Ngyuen in the fall of 1971. He was transferred to Cantoe a few months later and was there for three months before returning to the States. He knew she was four months pregnant when he left Saigon.
He continued his life in the U.S., getting married in 1974 and starting a family.
Strange, who’s been divorced for 20 years, says he never forgot about Kim and the child.
“When Saigon fell in 1975, I didn’t know if she had left the country or what happened to her,” he says.
Strange left the service in 1978 and “worked for the [U.S. Postal Service] for 39 years, 11 months, and 16 days” before retiring on Sept. 1, 2010.
He tried to find Kim and the child through the Department of Veterans Affairs in 1980, but because he didn’t have her given Vietnamese name or the gender or date of birth of the child, “I was fighting a losing battle.”
Made it to America
Andrew grew up in Saigon, always aware that he was different.
When he was 16 years old, he and his family came to the United States.
Andrew graduated from Twin Lakes High School in 1988 and went to then Palm Beach Community College where he got an associate’s degree before moving to Florida Atlantic University for a bachelor’s in electrical engineering.
Along the way, he worked at Motorola, and he married Maria, a native of Peru. The couple has two children. Matthew, 21, attends the University of Florida and is doing a combined bachelor’s/master’s program in accounting. Lauren, 18, recently graduated from Oxbridge Academy and plans to attend Santa Fe State College in the fall, with the goal of transferring to UF.
He got laid off from Motorola on April 6, 2001, months before graduating from FAU that summer.
The date is seared in his mind “because it was the day I cried a lot,” Andrew says.
He moved his young family to Maryland for a job with the Navy doing research and development.
Family reasons brought him back to West Palm less than three years later. He found himself having to take odd jobs, and three years ago he took a civilian job with the Town of Palm Beach “just to get insurance for the family and some stability.”
But he wanted more, so he attended the police academy part time while working full time as a parking enforcement officer. He was promoted to police officer in December after completing the academy.
All the while, his doctors monitored his heart condition — bicuspid aortic valve. According to the Mayo Clinic, for people with this condition “the aortic valve — located between the lower left heart chamber (left ventricle) and the main artery that leads to the body (aorta) — has only two (bicuspid) cusps instead of three.”
Andrew was diagnosed more than 20 years ago and had been monitored by doctors since then. The valve deteriorated over time and early this year his doctors decided he needed surgery because his worsening condition had resulted in severe aortic stenosis, which is a narrowing of the heart’s aortic valve.
Andrew Nguyen as a child in Vietnam’s Ho Chi Minh City, formerly known as Saigon. [NGUYEN FAMILY PHOTO/Observer-Dispatch/TNS]
The DNA test
Andrew’s son Matthew couldn’t shake the idea of finding out more about his paternal grandfather. He knew only that he was an American.
“I always tried to get information from my dad’s mother. She was kind of embarrassed,” he says.
Eventually, after much prodding, his grandmother “told me the name of the guy she had my dad with.”
With that information in hand, Matthew decided he would get a DNA test done to try to find his grandfather. He would not have needed the name if his grandfather was on the Ancestry.com database.
He and his sister gave the kit to their dad for his birthday in March.
Andrew says he reluctantly agreed to do the DNA test. “They have always wanted me to find my dad. I had always hesitated, but this time with surgery looming, I gave in to the kids,” he says.
When the results came back, there were 50 possible matches for relatives, mostly third and fourth cousins. “So me and my sister reached out to everyone,” Matthew says, but they got no responses for two or three days.
Eventually, they heard from one of the distant cousins and navigated their way to Mike Strange.
The first meeting — virtually
Matthew got Strange’s number after reaching his sister Darlene through cousins.
As Strange tells it: “I was on a 14-foot stepladder when my sister called and said she thought she had found my long-lost son. And I said ‘what long-lost son?’ She said, ‘your son from Vietnam.’
“I promptly said, ‘give him my number.'”
He says he had often wondered about his child back in Vietnam and his child’s mother.
On April 17, Matthew called his grandfather. The call lasted 10 minutes.
“It was pretty awkward at first,” Matthew says. On the call were “my dad, me, my grandfather, mother, sister and girlfriend and my Uncle Cory (Mike’s son).”
Andrew recalls the call as being very emotional, though everyone was happy.
“Everyone cried,” he says.
“I didn’t know what to say. Matthew said, ‘Hello Grandpa, this is your grandson and this is your son sitting right here,'” Andrew recalls.
“We chatted. I told him it took me a while to find him and that I have to go in for surgery.”
They ended the phone call, but planned a Zoom call later that day. That call lasted two hours.
About 20 minutes into the call, Matthew says, “we started talking about fishing, hunting — things they like to do, which we also like to do.
“It really couldn’t have gone better.”
Andrew, who had been hesitant about meeting his father, says he told Strange that finding him “had completed my chapter of finding out who my father is and hopefully I can have a relationship. He said the same thing,” and that he also wanted to know Andrew better.
Andrew was relieved: “I didn’t want to walk into somebody’s life and cause friction. It worked out well.”
As for Strange, he was thrilled to connect with his son, but “I was devastated to know that I had a son that was 48 years old and had been living in the States since he was 16. And that when he came to the States, he was living in Newport News. I’m an hour and a half from Newport News.”
The first time “it was wonderful! He was in tears, I was in tears,” Strange says of meeting his son.
They ended the Zoom call with plans to meet in person.
But because of the coronavirus pandemic, that meeting would have to wait.
Michael Strange and his mother Lillian Strange traveled from North Carolina to meet Michael’s son, Palm Beach Police officer Hung “Andrew” Nguyen in West Palm Beach. [MEGHAN MCCARTHY/PALMBEACHDAILYNEWS/TNS]
Face to face: “Hi, Dad”
May 10 was a day teeming with emotion at the Nguyen home in suburban West Palm Beach. Mike Strange, his mother and brother would arrive later that day. Meanwhile, the family was bracing itself for Andrew’s heart surgery in three days.
Andrew: “It was exciting and mostly I was nervous.” The anticipation of seeing his father plus his looming surgery had him feeling very emotional.
“My wife and kids were outside in the front yard waiting for him to come.
“When he came, he parked the car in front of my house.
I just said ‘Hi, Dad’ and we hugged each other for a few minutes. No talking at all.
“We were crying a little bit — we never knew each other. … The whole family was happy to see both of us meet for the first time.”
Strange: “Everything went wonderful! Me and Andrew met, and Andrew got to see his grandma — she’s 94!
“My momma is a big drama queen … she hugged and she cried and they made her to be the queen of the day. She loved all the attention.
“She fell in love with them and they with her. She’s told everyone in North Carolina about her grandson and great-grandchildren.”
He couldn’t speak, he says. “I cried and he cried.”
“I got here Sunday night about quarter to nine. Took 14 and a half hours to get there,” Strange says. How did his mother handle the long trip? “She never slept going down and never slept going back.”
The excitement was just too much — for everyone.
Matthew: “Tears and laughter … A really special moment.”
Strange stayed in West Palm Beach for nine days, so he could be by Andrew’s side when he had his surgery and also see his granddaughter Lauren graduate from Oxbridge.
He saw Andrew’s mother again, too.
Strange also visited Andrew’s colleagues at the Palm Beach Police department, where Andrew will return from leave July 13, and he’s called or texted his son every day.
Andrew hopes sharing his story will “help a lot of GI children who never got the chance to find their fathers.”
Now that he’s found his, distance will never come between them again.
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